In Defense of Myself (day 16)

Tomorrow I turn 18 and 1/2 years old.

Today I decided to compile a list of LIFE LESSONS I have learned in the past 4.

[The following is what I would assertively tell my 14 and 1/2 year old self, if given the opportunity to speak face to face with her. I think it would go something like this…]

*2019 holly enters a time bubble to bring her to 2015 holly*

Me: Omg hey holly it’s 18 and 1/2 year old you, don’t freak out, I’m only here to forewarn you of what’s to come in the next four years through these helpful pieces of advice and life lessons from which you can learn. I’ve actually lived your life so here are some instructions to guide you…


Actions mean everything. Through one’s actions, you are able to deduce so many things, like a person’s: Motives, Desires, and what’s important to them. Through observing these actions, you are able to see where you stand with someone. WORDS MEAN NOTHING. It is ACTION that shows you who a person REALLY is around you and how much they REALLY care about you. For example: If someone tells you all sorts of grandiose sentiments, then repeatedly does things they KNOW will hurt you, that is called a BAD RELATIONSHIP.

The term “relationship” is not exclusive to the romantic kind, and can include Friendships, Marriages, Parent-Child Relationships, etc. If you ever find yourself in a toxic environment or relationship, you need to address the wounds that are festering in that environment/relationship or get out and HEAL YOURSELF.


No one is going to give you compliments all the time. It’s up to YOU to develop your OWN guidelines by which to judge yourself- your actions/thoughts/words/motives etc. Maybe it’s following guidelines you make for yourself, YOU have to give yourself YOUR OWN praise, based on whether you have met the criteria you established for yourself, because sometimes no one will praise you. PRAISE YOURSELF when you deserve it, and don’t beat yourself up for months when you fail. HEAL YOURSELF.


No one is going to hold your hand and walk you through life. No one is going to guide your baby steps and tell you exactly what you should do in every possible situation. If you want to take a giant leap of faith, you need to TRUST YOURSELF to be able to heal when you fall to the ground. If you end up succeeding with flying colors on that leap of faith, CELEBRATE YOURSELF. You need to be able to REPAIR YOURSELF when you do get broken, because not one single person can completely heal you from your wounds. You have to learn your own methods to HEAL YOURSELF.


“Heal Yourself” does NOT mean sitting at home trying to cope with whatever hurt you 100% alone (you end up trying that, girl, &it doesn’t work). “Heal Yourself” means actively seeking out methods that actually CAN heal you, such as therapy/counseling, relying on friends/family for support, doing more of what you enjoy and cutting out toxic components of your life. No one is going to get the help you need FOR YOU. You have to seek it out yourself and actually commit to the end goal of feeling better and being healed, because you 100% have that incredible power within you.


Okay, that’s all I have time for, I gotta go back to 2019 now, and since you can’t respond to me in this weird time bubble thing, I’ll leave you with a cool trend from this year *hits woah badly*

*14 and 1/2 y/o holly is confused*

*time bubble dissolves*


hope u enjoyed this blog post, this is probably the longest i’ve ever spent on one.

100% proud of myself,


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